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Confessions of a Selfish Mom – from then to now and not looking back!

In case you’re wondering, this post is a follow up to this post.

Tara, Sandra and I are thinking of doing a free preview webinar, entitled: “If Mama Ain’t Transitioning, Ain’t Nobody Transitioning” but before we do it, we want to make sure you are interested. More details below…

How this all began…

Back in 1999, Robert, my youngest son was in 3rd grade. He had been on an IEP for almost 3 years, and he was struggling mightily in the classroom and I was struggling mightily to get him what he needed. Meanwhile, I was also trying to raise his brother and sister and they had unique challenges and learning differences too. I had adopted my two youngest children, Sandra and Robert, four years before and while our initial connection was blissful, it became quite evident, in the years ahead, that I had gotten in over my head. I simply didn’t understand the Special Needs system and balancing our needs and expectations was overwhelming to say the least.

My husband and I were working full time outside of our home and we had a wonderful AuPair from Spain living with us. We helped her to get what she needed while she helped us with the day to day logistics of raising a family. As my trips to the school escalated, my concerns mounted, and my temper erupted. My husband while supportive wasn’t sure what was happening. He constantly assured me and others that he was sure, that I could handle any school related problem as I had a Master’s Degree in Education with a major in Counseling. Little, did he know, that I was sinking, day by day. I wasn’t taking care of myself and barely managing to take care of them. And actually, I wasn’t caring for them emotionally at all.

One day, a dear teacher gave to me a wonderful pocket story book all about how wonderful moms needed wonderful bubble baths… In a flash, I realized that she was encouraging me to slow down, to relax and soak in a bubble bath! All of a sudden, I let her message soak in and I realized that: “Being Self-ish isn’t being selfish.”



Wait a minute…


It was an epiphany and I’m not exaggerating when I say it was a life changing moment for me. For the better – a whole lot better.

I knew – KNEW – that I had to take care of myself before I could care for them, so I could care for them.


Flash forward to 2012

I “met” Sandra Pearson of Our Special Families Village on LinkedIn and we really hit it off and decided to share our challenges and visions in couple of interviews. I knew that many Moms, Caregivers and Service Providers here at our Oasis of Hope and Support needed to hear the same message I had heard. And I knew Sandra could bring it to them. So I interviewed her. I had some wonderful feedback on our interviews.

One Mom told Sandra, “I know it’s true, but when I try to do something for me I feel such guilt. There’s always something that needs to be done, how can I possibly just take off with my girlfriends for dinner and a movie much less dream my own dreams?”

Our response was, “How can you not?”

Those conversations made me realize that a lot of Moms and Caregivers really needed more than just interviews. As I spoke with more people I realized that something needed to be done.

So that was when Sandra, Tara and I put our heads together.

We’ve been blessed to learn the value of taking care of ourselves and that we can have our own dreams and that those dreams can come true.

We know that there are certain things we did to make those things happen.

And we know that those tools can help you do it too.

We’ve been working to help spread that message but we know that more can be done to help you create your own Oasis of Hope. We know that a Village can help you do it.

So here’s what we feel compelled to do…

We want to create a Village just for you. Your own Oasis of Hope where you can gain clarity, figure out what you want, and then make it happen. This is an IEP for You! Your very own Individualized Empowerment Plan.

Does this sound good to you?

Then here is what I want you to do…

I’m making a list of everyone potentially interested in attending our free preview webinar “If Mama Ain’t Transitioning, Ain’t Nobody Transitioning.” If this sounds like something you might be interested in, enter your first name and email address below:

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If enough people get on this “interest list” then we’ll put together the preview webinar “If Mama Ain’t Transitioning, Ain’t Nobody Transitioning” and send you the details.