Build Your Village

Every caregiving parent eventually asks the same question: who will care?

You don’t need a village of hundreds. You need five specific kinds of people.

The Knower — Knows the ropes, has walked this maze

The Witness — Sees you, believes you, remembers with you

The Doer — Shows up and does what needs doing

The Dreamer — Holds hope for you when you’re out of it

The Restorer — Refuels you — the person, place, or practice

Most of us have zero. Even one is a start.

Do you have a Mary Lu?

My mother found one person who could give me what she couldn’t give me herself. One person. One yes. That’s sometimes all it takes.

Who’s your Mary Lu? Say the name in your head right now.